Monday 29 June 2009

Trash the Dress (Oh did they EVER trash it)


I can't even begin to explain how stunning McBride looked on her wedding day. Exquisite is an understatement. We all balled when she came down the grand staircase (yes, they have a photo of me balling behind the scenes).

The guy carrying McBride is McGroom. McBride: Model by profession and a model bride :)


The ceremony was a tearjerker and then some.
So when I got these pictures that Turtle Pond Photography did the day after- my jaw dropped. I was blown away. I knew they would be good, but I most certainly did not expect this phenomenal imagery.
If you had told me this was Ft Myers Beach I would have called you crazy. I'm still wondering where oh where these landscapes came from.
These are the work of a husband/wife photography team overflowing with talent and skill (and such fun to be with to boot).
Here is what Nate and Amanda had to say about this destination wedding and Trash the Dress session:
Let me first say, Jamie is as beautiful a person on the inside as she is on the out, which only made me love capturing her even more! She's obviously no novice to this modeling gig...and blew me away with her mad skills. Eager for more shots of her and her fabulous dress, we caught the last bit of sun the day after their wedding. Jamie was quite the trooper and needed little direction which made my job all the easier! Perhaps my favorite part of the shoot was watching her new husband stand by in awe of her....and fetch us dry sand (now that's true love). Seriously, they are absolutely precious together and we are so thankful to call them friends.”
You can see more of the Trash the Dress photos on the Turtle Pond Blog. Nate & Amanda are out of Indiana but travel worldwide for destination weddings.

Thursday 25 June 2009

A few wedding rules that I've seen "misplaced"

I'm just going to list out a few things that are bad and you shouldn't do and why. Feel free to print this one out.
  1. Don't get sunburned 2 days before your wedding: You'll look ridiculous and feel the same. Wear sunscreen and reapply all the time.
  2. Don't stay out until 3 in the morning the night before your wedding: You'll feel worse than you look. Go to bed on time and wake up filling awesome.
  3. Don't force your seamstress to make your dress super tight: You will be so uncomfortable you will hate your dress in 15 minutes flat. Get some spanx and relax.
  4. Don't ask someone to be in your wedding party out of guilt or persuasion: I promise you'll regret it. Instead, find another way to have them participate (reader, toast, etc.)
There are more, yes. But long lists of rules just look scary.

Wednesday 24 June 2009

New Blog Look. same wedding fanatic.

Same blog, new look. Hope you love it as much as I do. We're going thru some major changes here at Weddings by Socialites, and this is the first. Thanks to Ellie at Rainy Day templates I am absolutely adoring the new blog look. As you know, I am huge on saying thank you and shouting about great new products and professionals I come across. I just can't say enough about Ellie at Rainy Day. So for brides looking for a wedding blog/journal- give her a shout out. And for the wedding pros looking for a quick clean up or some extras- she's your gal.
Next week we'll unveil the new planning studio (we're up to our ears in paint and hammers at the moment), updates on the new crew, and more.

Don't be THAT bridesmaid


I'm not going to post an example picture on this post because it would be oh so embarassing to the bridesmaid who was distracted, bored, or in another zone. Something I noticed while reading a few wedding magazines last week; pictures taken at ceremonies where there's just one bridesmaid staring in the wrong direction, slouching, or even worse- frowning. Blatantly not paying attention and caught in the act- not good. So just as a reminder,
"At all times, all eyes on the bride"
I say it at every rehearsal and I think it works. Or you could have someone stand at the back row with a cue card reminder. Kidding...don't you dare!

Tuesday 23 June 2009

Prevent fainting at your wedding

Ever wonder why you hear of brides and wedding party members passing out at the altar? I'll tell you why, because it actually happens. Common cause: lack of eating, followed by an adrenaline rush while heading down the aisle, and then standing up for 15-45 minutes.

Simple fix: Eat food. Good for you food.
For Blizzard Bride & Grooms wedding this month,they had your everyday packed lunch: sandwich, snack cheese, and pretzels in lunch bags, we made them cute of course (because you know we only do cute), and let everyone in the wedding party grab at will.
This is Me with Blizzard Bride & Groom. We'll post more pics from their amazing wedding in Kings Crown soon!

Monday 22 June 2009

No your bridesmaids don't need to look like they stepped out of a catalog

I am by no means saying that matching dresses are bad. It is perfectly fine, completely traditional, and looks lovely. However, this is one of those "rules" that I feel is safe to abandon. I came across a perfect example in this most recent issue of InStyle Weddings.
Here's how to do this right, without risking scary wedding party photos:
1. Request that everyone stay in a color palette you've selected (print this out for them!). {Quick Tip} pick up paint chips from the home improvement store.
2. Be very clear on what you do not want see (no crushed velvet, no prints or patterns, no trains, etc.).
3. Be very clear on what you would like to see (length, formality, and fabric types)
4. Make it fun and personal. Make a date with each of your girls individually to shop for their dress and shoes.

Sunday 21 June 2009

Honeymoon Registries

For couples doing a destination wedding or just a standard honeymoon, a resort registry can make a lot of sense. It works like this – you register, friends and family give money to the overall honeymoon or to specific activities.

This concept has been around for a while and we looked into it for our own destination wedding. We briefly considered this approach but, at the time of our wedding, thought it wasn’t as sophisticated as we were going for.

There are two kinds of registries – a general registry and a specific registry. General registries, such as the numerous websites all over the Internet, don’t provide services for specific businesses/locations. They charge fees (some are pretty hefty at 9%) for the opportunity and then commit you to working with their “partner companies” (presumably they get a kickback from the partner companies as well). It just feels kind of cheap. And be extra weary, as some of these companies spam your guest list with repeated pleas to pony up cash (very obnoxious!).

The other kind of registry is specific to a business. Companies like Starwood, Marriott and Hyatt all have specific registries that help couples offset aspects of their honeymoon or destination wedding experience. And over the last 5 years or so, these registries have evolved into fairly classy affairs. One that we like is the Hyatt Registry because it is well run, professional and classy. It gives friends and relatives an opportunity to offset activities you might not otherwise do, but it doesn’t have a high-pressure sales pitch feel.

Regardless of whether you do a registry or not, or what kind of registry you do, you should thoroughly research it. These registries work well to offset your existing plans. You could ultimately wind up paying more if you committed to something just because of the registry. So be smart and ask some key questions to ask: Do you need to pay for the honeymoon upfront? What kind of fees do they charge? Does it lock you into working with specific vendors? How flexible are they? Does the gift expire after a certain period of time (if you don’t use it all on your honeymoon)?



We Wed Brunch

The Summer 2009

We Wed Brunch & Workshops

A Gathering for Wedding Professionals

Naples Beach Hotel in Naples, FL


  • Wedding PR Specialist Leila Khalil of Be Inspired PR will begin speaking at 9:30 am on

Wedding PR 101, branding your business and Do's & Don'ts of the industry

  • The outstanding culinary team of the Naples Beach Hotel will provide a sophisticated Brunch 10:30 to 11:30 am.
  • Kelly McWilliams of Weddings by Socialites will give a presentation and lead a roundtable discussion focusing on

How as wedding professionals we can work better together to create a better experience & product for our clients


We would appreciate your participation in the following survey to assist in the roundtable discussion. All names and occupations will be kept anonymous as the survey is 100% anonymous. We would greatly appreciate your participation even if you are not planning on attending this event.

You can learn more about the We Wed gatherings on the We Wed Blog


Saturday 20 June 2009

Candles are hot. Just a reminder.

I hear it every single day, "I want candles everywhere" "Can we have more candles?" " I really like that romantic candle lit glow"

Guess what. I like it too. Me, produce a wedding without candles? Unfathomable. However, I do find it necessary to remind you that candles bring fire into the mix. Fire produces heat. Heat and crowds don't mix so well. Particularly in July after eating beef. Throw in some non LED lighting and you've got an a/c catastrophe on your hands. So, with that said...
✵Perhaps ask your lighting designer if LED perimeter lighting is a possible substitution for sometimes standard par lights.
✵Fall in love with battery powered tealights in frosted votives if you really really must have 40 candles on each dinner table.

Friday 19 June 2009

Sorbet is perfect for the dance floor "treat"

Late night refreshments are a very welcome trend in weddings. Honest to goodness, its the one I hope becomes a standard. There is certainly room to go over the top; but I can tell you that a simple something goes a very long way. The dance floor would stay packed longer if your guests can be refreshed with something other than a cocktail.
So maybe consider a small scoop of sorbet? Of course, there's nothing wrong with making it cute. Yeah, I find this a necessity ( cute that is), but you don't have to listen to me.
Perhaps order some Gelato spoons and cups to serve your Gelato or Sorbet in?
And if you're thinking more along the lines of frozen fruit skewers (yum), how about ordering some custom stir sticks from ForYourParty?

Thursday 18 June 2009

How to tell them what to wear


Hands down one of the trickiest (kinda) parts of the wedding invitation elements. Deciding on the attire wordage ranks right up there with getting your eyebrows waxed. It's no fun, but ya kinda gotta do it.Here are some articles and tips I found helpful from Wedding Channel, the knot, Destination I Do and Martha Stewart Weddings.

Now here's my 2 cents for destination weddings:
Island casual: Light weight and casual wear. Most guests will take this as nice shorts and short sleeved button up shirts or polos for the men and simple sundresses for the ladies.
Island/Tropical elegant: Again lightweight, and short sleeved, but adding a minimum of slacks and a full length sundress. Certainly less than sequins and ties though.
Resort elegant: Nearly the same as cocktail, only with lightweight fabrics being appropriate. No shorts, no sundresses. Yes to ties & slacks and cocktail dresses without sequins.

I do find it nice to state on guest guides when hats and/or wraps would be a benefit or appropriate.
{Quick Tip} J Crew currently has the best hands down grooms/groomsmen destination wedding suits available. Just sayin.

Wednesday 17 June 2009

Sonny+Sandy=Superlative!



Super-fun, super-styling, super-sweet, super-hot ~ there simply aren't enough adjectives to describe how great Sonny & Sandy are together! Their positive energy is completely contagious & in addition to all the above, they are totally hilarious; I'm pretty sure we've never laughed quite so much on a shoot. These two can barely look at each other without smiling - beautiful, natural smiles that just say 'we are sooooo in love & can't wait to be married!' And we can't wait to be part of their epic 4-day wedding celebration! Some of our fav images from their engagement session.

In Stanley Park a few hours before sunset. Ahh, lovely light.





See? Great smiles.



And lots of laughs.



Sandy, beautiful bride to be.



Sandy, rocking her inner super-model in her Marciano dress & to-die-for Marciano heels (hmm...do you think I could shoot a wedding in those? I covet them!).



Wow - must be something magic in those blueberries on Sandy's family farm.



Love this set.







And rockin the radio-poppers to add a little drama at the end of the night.






Congrats, Sonny+Sandy!

Brides.com: The Color Studio & Wedded Bits

Every now and again I'll get an hour to just browse the online wedding world and find some new things. Here's what I found recently that I wanted to share:
From Brides.com, the color studio. This neat little tool can help you pick out a color palette for your wedding: color studio
Oh, and I am also a big fan of Wedded Bits, the brides.com blog. The blog has tips and nearly real time wedding news. It seems like they are always one step ahead of the pack. To make things better, they even have regional blog posts! I highly suggest Florida of course.

Tuesday 16 June 2009

Wedding party gifts that aren't stupid

Truth be told, I think this is the best wedding party gift. The price is right, its itty bitty, good for both bridesmaids and groomsmen, and can totally be personalized in more ways than one. Personally, I would love if someone handed me this ipod shuffle:
The ipod above is just $49 at apple.com or just about anywhere ipods are sold. The 4GB below is awesome, as you can have it engraved with a name. I'll say that I am against engraving your names or wedding date on it. I do however recommend pre-loading some music they'll love. If you want to put your wedding "stamp" on it, pre-load it with songs you know will be played at your wedding. Empty ipods are boring without music (and kind of a tease).
Yeah, this is way better than a beer mug or monogrammed tote bag. Been there, done that.

Monday 15 June 2009

Wow ceremony decor without blowing the bank



This is absolutely my favorite way to dress up an outdoor ceremony site. Everyone always decorates the aisle. Sure. It's great. And it's also anything but unique. Still, I think some attention should be placed there. however what is almost always missed is the back row of chairs. Note that I said back row- not all rows. Sure you can do every seat, but really, you can get away with just the back row and make quite the impression.
There will be so many photos from behind your guests, and it is the first thing your guests will see as they arrive- so why not take advantage of the design opportunity?
Things you can do:
  • Chair Covers
  • Chair Sleeves/drapes
  • Garland (Flowers, shells, greenery- like Italian Ruscus, ribbon)
  • Paper Lanterns
  • Paper Mache Letters
  • Bows or sashes (ok, not my favorite- but they can look nice if done properly)

Sunday 14 June 2009

Meet the Expert: Cynthia Conde, Fitness Expert

In this week’s Meet the Expert column, we interview Cynthia Conde, fitness expert and creator of Bridal Bookcamp®. She is a National Academy of Sports Medicine certified trainer and has helped hundreds of brides slim down for their big day.


I don’t think there is a bride in the world that doesn’t want to look great on her wedding. How do you counsel brides to slim down?

First thing I do is have my brides do a 2 week cleanse and detox. Week 1, they begin to cut caffeine, cigarettes, processed foods, sugar and red meat from their diets. Week 2, they begin their cleanse. Week 3 and forward, its on the clean eating and hard training, until the W-Day, then its on to maintenance.


What are the biggest problem areas for brides that they should focus on before their wedding?

Biggest problem areas will always be thighs, butt and abs for most women. Although a wedding dress will cover these areas, there is still the destination wedding at a hot locale and honeymoon (bikini time) to think about. The bridal focus is to blast the upper back, biceps, triceps and forearms, and give equal attention to the butt, abs, and thighs. I teach my brides to dig deep and get in touch with their inner athletics by staying focused and training hard.


In light of the economic climate, how are brides and grooms shaping up and slimming down on a budget? Many gyms are increasing their rates and brides are finding it difficult to cope.

It's funny. There was a recent article in the New York Times that stated the fitness industry is recession proof, and I couldn't agree more. I have not experience a huge drop in brides signing up for my Bridal Bootcamp program. Although I will admit that instead of doing private Bridal Bootcamp with our instructors, some have opted for the more economical Bridal Bootcamp group program. The reason, brides will anything to look good on their wedding day!!!


As you work with brides, they talk about their destination wedding plans. What trends do you see in destination weddings as you work with your clients? How have the needs of engaged couples changed over time?

I am seeing more brides choosing destination weddings for two reasons. The idea of a getaway wedding is super romantic especially on a warm tropical beach and its sure a lot cheaper than paying for a traditional wedding. The needs of engage couples change dramatically. After, the honeymoon, the trends is to be more relax with one another, that usually leads to more eating and less activity. The winter holiday season rolls around, and add 10 to 15 pounds of excess weight. Also, when a bride become pregnant, her hubby usually gains weight as well.


What's the most dramatic change you've seen a bride make/go through?

The most dramatic change I’ve had was my first client, Pandora Kinard, who lost 100 pounds in 8 months!


How important is it to incorporate weight training?

Incorporating weight training is super important...it's the only way you will be able to harden your body. Remember to leave no area untouched.....train EVERYTHING...work on every crevice of your body. The hardest areas to hit are the inner thighs, lower abs and the crease of your butt.


What's the best way to maintain once you've reached the weight/fitness level you want before your wedding? Do you ever see whole wedding parties come in together?

The best way to maintain your body is to incorporate push ups, assisted pull ups or military, pop squats (jumping squats), abs - (best exercise leg raises and twisting crunches) and cardio (I love jumping rope and doing the strainmill, 3 to 4 times per week).


What is your important of incorporating weigh loss medication like Alli in your pre-wedding program?

I'm an organic girl. I don't push weight loss supplements. I do like whey protein, folic acid, and green drink (aloe vera juice and liquid chlorophyll) and berry drinks (antioxidant). Safe and healthy cleansing programs are the way to go. Being an efficient pooper is the key to getting rid of belly bloat and losing weight.

Lovely things for your bridal ER kit


We're big on being incredibly prepared for our brides & their wedding parties; and that means having a fully stocked emergency kit (its well over 100 items). A few things I recently found that you should consider if you're pulling together your own...

First, for $10- a fantastic mini kit. Head to MsandMrs.com for this cute little collection of must haves. They actually have an awesome array of other kits that you may need for your bridesmaids, groom, and guests.

This is my favorite. I've used 3 myself since I found them and will keep them in my purse forever and ever. Leave it to Colgate to come up with Wisp. It's a disposable mini brush for your teeth with a dab of breath freshener. Brushes on one end, soft pick on the other. I love it.

Thursday 11 June 2009

Brooke+Steven=Luminous



From the first time I chatted on the phone with Brooke about her wedding, I knew it was going to a day filled with fun & laughter. I could feel her smile all the way from New Jersey to Vancouver! When she told me she and her fiance Steven were a wedding photographer couple just like us, I knew we had a connection (and when we found out Steven shot a certain Jersey rock star we happen to like a little, we knew we had to meet them)! When we finally did, their connection was tangible - they light up around each other & sparks fly!

It's always an honour to document the day of fellow photographers - here's what we saw.


Pink & orange! Love all of Brooke's colour-coordinated details - especially her divine fuchsia-bowed Kate Spade shoes & citrus Michael Kors rain boots!



Brooke has the best, light-up-your day smile!





And despite the rain, that smile was on full wattage all day.



Beautiful glowing bride.



Steven & Brooke's First Look ~ full of laughter...



...and love.



Brooke gets her sexy on & her silly on while we shoot some quick portraits before the ceremony.



Chris tries out Steven's smile-inducing technique of making farm animal sounds during formals on the guys - it works (but only in Jersey!).



Major rainstorms pushed us indoors to the Westmount Country Club where it was nice and cozy.



Ceremony time.

Drama,



laughter,



and more pink & orange!





Married!



More vibrant details at the reception, including a view camera surrounded by pink & orange florals -wow!



The very fabulous cake, topped with two cameras - wait, are those Canon or Nikon? ;)



First dance.



The evening was filled with emotional speeches and lots of laughter.



And lots of celebrating - the band got everyone out on the dance floor




Near the end of the evening, we snuck the couple out to get some late-night portraits. Love these two of Brooke on the bar. Quick, Bobby's coming!





Congrats, Brooke + Steven! Can't wait to see you again & meet the parrots!